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Looking after yourself while supporting your employees

When providing support to team members who are doing it tough, it’s vital to take care of yourself too. The quality of care you can offer is dependent on your own mental health and wellbeing.

When a friend, family member or business colleague experiences a period of mental ill-health, your positive support and care can make an important contribution to their recovery. However, it’s essential that you don’t neglect your own wellbeing in the process, as it can have negative implications on your own mental health.

Self-care is about being proactive to enhance or restore your health and reduce the stress you may be experiencing. This can include processing your emotional reactions and asking for help.

Some of the benefits of self-care include a greater capacity to manage stress, increased resilience and reduced symptoms of mental health problems.

Self-care needn’t be costly or time consuming. The important thing is finding what combinations of things work for you.

Self-care tips

Your feelings and reactions are normal: The experience of supporting someone else can evoke many strong feelings and reactions. Regardless of how you’re feeling, give yourself permission to have these feelings without judgement. Processing these feelings with a therapist or someone else independent of the situation can be helpful.

Educate yourself: Another way to manage feelings is to learn more about mental ill-health and mental illness. Understanding the symptoms of what the person you are supporting is experiencing can help you to stop taking certain changes in their behaviour personally. Most mental health organisations also include useful information to support the family, friends and colleagues of someone experiencing a mental illness or mental health problem.

Set boundaries and recognise your own limitations: It’s okay to say ‘no’ to others, including the person you are supporting, without feeling guilty. Part of caring for someone is also helping them to take greater responsibility for their own self-care and recovery.

Connect with others: Caring for another can at times feel all-consuming so it’s important to take time out and maintain contact with other people in your life. It’s important to give yourself permission to take this time guilt-free.

Share the load: Avoid extra pressure on yourself by outsourcing everyday tasks and responsibilities that are becoming a burden. Hire a cleaner and enlist the support of family and friends to help you with some of the things you need. This could be emotional support like providing a listening ear, or practical support.

Be self-aware: Monitor your self-talk and learn to identify your own stress indicators, such as short temper, sleeping problems and feeling overwhelmed. Use these as a cue for scheduling in some urgent self-care time. Relaxation techniques, like yoga or meditation can assist to manage symptoms of stress.

Think differently: The way we think about or interpret difficulties can add to the sense of pressure we experience. It can make a difference if we identify and challenge unhelpful thinking patterns, for example, I ‘should’ be doing more, or ‘It’s all my fault’ and work towards replacing them with more positive, problem-solving approaches. On the not-so-good days, remind yourself that you are doing the best you can with the resources available to you and focus on celebrating the everyday achievements, no matter how small.

Take time out for things you enjoy: Balance in life is important, so taking time out for things you enjoy can make a difference, not only to how you think and feel, but it can also reinvigorate you in your caring role. If you have put things you enjoy on hold while you are supporting someone else, try to work some of them back into your life, even for thirty minutes a day.

Get enough sleep and rest: Sleep affects our physical and mental health but can be the first thing we trade-in when we get busy or stressed. Aim for seven to nine hours a night.

Be active and eat well: Our physical and mental health is closely linked, so engaging in exercise and eating nutritious food every day can boost our wellbeing. Modelling healthy lifestyle habits may also benefit the person you’re supporting.

This story is sponsored by Ahead for Business. 2020 has been one of the most stressful years on record for business owners, their managers, employees and families. If you or someone close to you is experiencing challenging emotions, please visit aheadforbusiness.org.au The site contains practical strategies and tools to assist people to regulate their feelings, and also provides access to a range of mental health resources.

Ahead for Business is an initiative of Everymind and funded by the Australian Government Department of Industry, Science, Energy and Resources.

If you are in need of support for your mental health, services are available 24/7:

Lifeline 13 11 14
Beyond Blue 1300 22 4636
MensLine Australia 1300 78 99 78
Suicide Call Back Service 1300 659 467